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First Lady Betty Ford's Remarks
to the American Cancer Society
New York City
Friday, November 7, 1975
I'm very glad to be here tonight, and that is not a line borrowed
from someone.
I feel absolutely marvelous. I just had my annual checkup and
all my tests are completely clear. There is no sign whatsoever
of a cancerous reoccurrence at this point. I am convinced that
Ii am completely cured.
Thanks to that checkup last September, good doctors, a loving
supporting husband and understanding children -- I can truly say
this past year has been one of the richest and happiest of my life.
When I went into the operating room, that morning I had a pretty
good premonition it was going to turn out to be a malignancy and
that my breast would have to be removed. But once the operation
was over, I was really very relieved. I felt the doctors had removed
the cancer at such an early stage that I was very lucky and would
have no more problems.
The most difficult moments were trying to pull my family through
my cancer operation. I really had to pull them through, and to
try to make them happy because they were so sad and upset.
The malignancy was something my husband never expected, and he
couldn't believe it was happening to me. The whole family felt
that way.
I think their surprise was a very natural reaction, because one
day I appeared to be fine and the next day I was in the hospital
for a mastectomy. It made me realize how many women in the country
could be in the same situation.
That realization made me decide to discuss my breast cancer operation
openly, because I thought of all the lives in jeopardy. My experience
and frank discussion of breast cancer did prompt many women to
learn about self-examination, regular checkups, and such detection
techniques as mammography. These are so important. I just cannot
stress enough how necessary it is for women to take an active interest
in their own health and body.
Too many women are so afraid of breast cancer that they endanger
their lives. These fears of being "less" of a woman are
very real, and it is very important to talk about the emotional
side effects honestly. They must come out into the open.
It was easier for me to accept the operation, because I had been
married for 26 years and we had four children. There was no problem
of lack of love, affection, and attention.
But some women don't have these same emotional resources, and
it is very necessary to deal realistically with the fears about
breast cancer.
It isn't vanity to worry about disfigurement. It is an honest
concern. I started wearing low-cut dresses as soon as the scar
healed, and my worries about my appearance are now just the normal
ones of staying slim and keeping my hair kempt and the make-up
in order. When I asked myself whether I would rather lose a right
arm or a breast, I decided I would rather have lost a breast.
The most important thing in life is good health! And that I have!
That is the medical side. Cancer also produces fear -- and much
of that fear cots from ignorance about the progress already made
and ignorance of the need for preventive medicine for men and women
alike.
Cancer wherever it strikes the body, also strikes the spirit,
and the best doctors in the world cannot cure the spirit. Only
love and understanding can accomplish this important role.
All of us can give love and support to our friends who have cancer.
We can open our hearts and our minds to dealing with the fears
that the victims have, and also the fears many of us have of the
disease itself.
I believe we are all here to help each other and that our individual
lives have patterns and purposes. My illness turned out to have
a very special purpose -- helping save other lives, and I am grateful
for what I was able to do.
Note: This text is from the reading copy of Mrs. Fords
speech in box 3 of the files of her speechwriter, Frances Kaye
Pullen.
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